Sunday, June 17, 2018

Be a Man

(thanks for the inspiration JY)

   He stood up as tall as he could, coming up barely past my shoulder.  My son said proudly "I'm getting bigger.  Soon I'll be a man like you, Dad."  I realized it was a good time for a very special conversation I had been saving.  I asked "Is that what makes a man?  Being tall?"  Immediately he understood.  "No", he replied.  "So what makes a man?" I asked.  "Being Strong?", he suggested.  "Well, most women are much stronger than men." I replied.  "Especially your mom, for example."  "No way", he exclaimed. "You're much stronger than Mom."  I knew I had him.  "Not so.  Strength is not just your muscles.  Strength can be emotional strength and mental strength, too, right?".  He conceded "Yeah, I guess so."  "So what makes a man?" I asked again.  He tried a few other guesses: getting a job (sadly child labor still exists, even in places we have visited together),  having children (close, but just having children does not make you a man), having a car or house (definitely not).  He gave up.  "tell me the answer", he pleaded.


Compassion. The ability to understand from another's vantage point and show sympathy.  This is what makes a man.  We all have the capacity to harm others, be it physically or emotionally.  A man knows he has this power, but he chooses not to exercise it.  Instead, he exhibits mercy and care for others, knowing that it is man's place to protect and comfort other people.  Animals do not have compassion, it is a uniquely human trait.  According to Buddhism, we cannot solve the problems of others, not all of them, anyway.  Each of us must own his/her karmic path, challenges and all.  However, this does not mean we should be indifferent to suffering.  In fact, quite the opposite.  It is our heart of compassion that connects us and supports us on our respective journeys.

This modern society tries to get everyone to hate each other, thereby dividing us and making us easier to rule.  This "microtribalism" encourages us not just to disagree, but to revile anyone who's opinions do not exactly match our own.  Cities are overcrowded and we are all far too busy.  These social factors push us to be cold toward one another or to waste our attention looking for some "invisible enemy".  Beyond obvious physical abuse of bullying or violent crime, emotional abuse of other children, co-workers, spouses, service providers and others is at an all-time high.  Video after video gets posted on social media showing police hurting regular citizens, people "fighting back" against the system and in general expressing rage at other people.  Everyone is "triggered" by the slightest affront and our default reaction is to attack rather than to engage, discuss and understand.  We've lost our soul. How can we ever recover?

In the face of so much negativity, it becomes even more important to consider the importance of compassion in our everyday lives.  Not just to strangers, but to our own close friends and family.  I see so many cases, some bordering on domestic violence, where men treat their girlfriend/spouse or children very badly - heaping verbal abuse and sometimes even physical abuse out of frustration over their own failures or insecurities.  Everyone feels like they are losing out - that they should have or be more than they are, which leads to feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness and despair.

Religion continues to be used as a reason for dividing us from each other, when it should really be the opposite.  All of the major religions teach compassion, but their worshipers are swayed by extremists who advocate hatred and violence against anyone who may believe differently, and the beliefs are used as just another lame excuse for racism and exclusion.

It's time for us all to take a big step backward and reconnect to our heart of compassion - our natural state of being.  We need to rediscover our connectedness to each other and remember that WE ARE ALL ONE.  The mass media can make the world seem like an awful place.  It's not (at least it doesn't have to be).  The reality is that we can and should make an effort to foster love, kindness and compassion in our little corners and help it spread throughout the world.  Strength and mercy go hand-in-hand.  Strength without mercy is brutality. Mercy without strength is timidness.

It's time to be a man.   

Monday, May 28, 2018

2in1 Seminar - a weekend with Sifu Jack and Guro Evan

What an amazing weekend.  Since our family vacationed in Brisbane, Australia last Christmas I had been in touch with Sifu Jack Leung, who runs several Wing Chun schools in the greater Brisbane Area.  Although we didn't get to train together over Christmas, we kept on corresponding and working on a visit to Tokyo for a seminar.  Almost half a year later - it happened.

As it turns out, Sifu Jack is very good friends with another of my martial arts legends, Guro Evan Tai from Hong Kong.  The two meet frequently, train together and have hosted joint seminars before.  When Sifu Jack mentioned that Guro Evan might also be available I was even more excited!

We spent two days covering a wide variety of topics, with both teachers taking turns and building off what each other showed.  Sifu Jack's Practical Wing Chun was exactly that - fast, powerful, effective and very well suited to self defense applications.  He explains techniques from a very scientific point of view, focusing less on the Chi Kung and more on proper structure, posture and breathing.  The many technical options were based around three simple entries (inside/outside/split) which are universal and common in almost every martial art.

From there we explored a wide variety of potential outcomes using different weapons including strikes/punches, elbows, traps, grabs, kicks and so on covering high line and low line, too.  They all can end up in the same finish, or be adjusted for distance and circumstance.

No one can learn Wing Chun in 2 days, but for all of us without that background it was a very accessible set of material that we can continue to explore on our own.

As for Guro Evan Tai, I have been watching his videos on YouTube for years and always hoped to get a chance to meet him.  For anyone who thinks his videos are sped up, I can tell you - HE REALLY IS THAT FAST!  Guro Evan took us through some flows with knife, single stick and sarong/scarf that were really interesting.  He moves extremely fast but with great precision, exactly as you would expect from an expert at his level.  He also showed us a lot of options, often bringing the same techniques back into the flow in different steps.  Of course we were only scratching the surface in these 2 days but it was really exciting and fun.

Both teachers traveled with friends and family, who were very kind and open.  Together we got to make a lot of new friends in addition to some excellent training.  If you get a chance to see them in Brisbane or Hong Kong - TAKE IT!!  If you see a seminar from either of them (hopefully both) - ATTEND!!  You will be very glad you did.

Great thanks again to everyone who came out to support and, most of all, thanks to Sifu Jack, Guro Evan and their Entourage for sharing and giving us so much good stuff.

See you again next time!!

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Why I love Silat

In this cycle, we are introducing some silat.  I must confess, I LOVE IT.  Of the many things that we do in Kali Majapahit, including Sinawali/Serrada, Panantukan/Sikaran, Hakka Kuntao, Muay Thai/Muay Boran and others, silat is always one of my favorites.  Years ago, at the Peaceful Warrior Camp, Dakilang Jeff Espinous introduced us to a variety of movements from his Kali Silat Concept and I was mesmerized.  I have been ever since.  In the interim, I have had a chance to experience some fantastic instructors such as Guru Berni Chu, Sifu James Nener and Guru Maul Mornie, who deepen my understanding further and help me make sense of this beautiful art.  Of course, I was thrilled to see silat shown in movies like Raid/Raid 2 and The Accountant.  Silat was even used as a basis for the fighting style of King T'Challa, the Black Panther of Wakanda.   

Why do I love it so much?

Low Stances
While not exclusively so, silat tends to be characterized by an extremely low stance relative to other fighting styles (like Muay Thai, for example).  As a smaller guy, this is to my advantage.  Practicing the Jurus/Langkas is also great for building leg strength and flexibility in the hips and ankles. Some styles like Cimande/Mande Muda have very low movements and are great for lower body physical conditioning. 

Unusual Weapons
I've always been a "weapons" guy, and silat training exposes us culturally to some of the most exotic tools in the martial arts - sarong, karambit, Kris, sabit, tekpi to name a few.  Even weapons which resemble those of kobudo (sabit and tekpi, for example) are used in a very different manner, which means a lot to learn, explore and discover.  Years ago, I was fascinated by a photo of Silat master Eddie Jafri with little blades held between his toes for kicking opponents...mind-blowing stuff.

3 Levels of Engagement
In silat, things are happening all at once, often on 3 planes at the same time.  While the hands are engaging/trapping and striking, the hips may be in contact and the feet may be entering for foot traps, low kicks, sweeps or other low-line attacks.  The fact that these all happen simultaneously make silat an extremely effective fighting system that is very hard to defend against.

Fighting Strategy
Many people observe the jurus (forms) of silat and comment that they are impractical or ineffective.  This is often derided from a point of view that does not understand the actual fighting movements and strategy inherent in silat.  Unlike other styles which favor showing opponents a tight, close guard, silat is very deceptive.  Often the silat artist will "bait" the opponent by offering a (seemingly) very open and available target such as the head or groin.  This is done to try to "channel" the attacker into launching an expected attack - which results in their defeat.  The open guards are usually done with other targets hidden or covered, limiting the attacker to one good (irresistible) line of attack.  I love the psychological approach of making an opponent commit to a doomed strategy.

Silat is not a static art.  The goal is always to use footwork to reach a place of advantage, flanking to gain access to the opponent's back or using footwork to adjust fighting distance.  

Locking Flows
Having come from a background of strong locking/throwing techniques (aikido/jujutsu/judo) I truly appreciate the beauty of being able to control an attacker or project him/her into other combatants.  However, silat has a wide variety of locking techniques that are rarely seen in other arts.  in silat, we lock with the feet, legs, arms and elbows and lock both standing and on the ground.  In general, these locks are a pathway to one of two outcomes: 1) joint breaks/dislocations or 2) strangles and chokes.  Like quicksand, the more the attacker struggles, the more they are locked, in pain and blacking out.  There are also throws in silat, but less the kind of dynamic projections seen in judo or aikido, and more likely to be sweeps or takedowns, usually flowing straight into locking.

Silat is not a submission style like MMA/BJJ or Aikido.  The locks are designed to dislocate or break joints and usually lead directly into strangles or chokes.

Filipino Martial Arts has its own groundfighting style, called "dumog", but this is a bit different from silat.  Styles vary of course, but some such as cimande are extremely low and centered around in groundwork.  Almost like the BJJ guard, these styles seek to pin the opponent to the floor where they can be attacked with brutal full-power strikes, elbows and kicks without being able to retreat.  In general, three points of contact (two knees and one hand, two hands and one knee) will be the base while the remaining limb hits or kicks.  BJJ is considered extremely formidable on the ground, but silat is no less deadly.

Adab, Adat, Hormat
These three words, Adab (courtesy), Adat (culture) and Hormat (respect) form the foundation of good silat training.  This is consistent with all good martial arts instruction and promotes healthy, mature and responsible people.  The silat practitioners I have met all exemplify these traits and I am proud to call them my brothers and sisters.

The great thing about Kali Majapahit is the contrast between the different sub-systems.  There is always a lot to see and do, and it takes some time for the mind to feel comfortable with the vastness of the curriculum.

Train hard. 

White Belt

(Thanks for the inspiration Guro Rose)

Starting something new is at the same time challenging and intimidating.  Especially martial arts class.  It's exciting to embark on the journey as a white belt, fresh and open to new ideas and new understanding.  At the same time, it's humbling to see the other students, some of whom started just a month or two before you did, looking like veterans after just a bit of repetition and guidance.  I've been in the Arts almost all of my life (all of it that matters, anyway).  I can remember every time I started a new style feeling like I had forgotten everything else I had ever done.

Kali Majapahit was the first Southeast Asian fighting art I studied.  I was familiar with wrestling from high school, fencing (especially saber) from college and boxing from my older brother. The others, ninjutsu, aikido, iaijutsu, karate, judo all had a lot in common.  Kali Majapahit, a Southeast Asian martial art encompassing Kali, Silat, Hakka and Muay Thai, as well as a host of weapons I had never used before, was a real struggle at the beginning.  For the first year everything felt wrong.  We fought right foot forward (Southpaw) versus the Orthodox boxing/kickboxing/MMA/Muay Thai left foot forward stance.  I couldn't "flow".  I was too stiff.  Nothing made any sense.  I kept berating myself, assuming I should be able to learn it all much faster.  I felt ashamed that I wasn't...better.

However, I was convinced that Kali Majapahit had Truth in it.  The senior students (Vince, Guillaume, Ben) were excellent.  The logic of body mechanics and physics was irrefutable.  The speed, power and gracefulness were enticing.  Guro Fred was very patient and kept encouraging me.  He knew my long background in other styles, as well as my frustration.   He assured me that I didn't need to give up decades or everything else I had done, telling me that it would all find its way into my Flow (it has).

The years teach much the days never know.

I have been running the KM group in Japan since 2011 - over 7 years.  With great support from KM HQ we have built a dojo of great people - a real FAMILY of like-minded people who love to train and share.  I couldn't be prouder of what we have achieved together.  Every year a few new faces make their way to us and join our little community.  Little by little we have grown.

This year many of my original students will test for Kadua Guro, 1st Dan black belt, a very important milestone in their journeys and a testament to their years of hard work and dedication.  Brining them from white belt to black belt gives me a tremendous feeling of accomplishment, especially seeing how they have also become great leaders, great partners and confident professionals.  Our future is bright indeed.

For our new joiners, you have some great role models around you that will help me lead you in the right direction.  You will learn Kali, but hopefully you will also learn about yourself and the people around you.  You will develop the confidence to succeed in every aspect of your life through your hard training and discipline.  You'll make new friends that will become closer than you expected.
Step by step you will change your life for the better, and this will influence the people around you.

So...if you're sitting on the couch...what will you do?
In 5 years your couch will still be there, but you could choose to be somewhere else - somewhere better.  Martial arts is an investment in yourself and your future.  Trust me, you deserve it.



Sunday, April 15, 2018

The Shame Factor

(thanks for the inspiration IDP)

Great class on Friday and some great conversation, too.  Getting good at anything takes work, a lot of work.  At the beginning, everything feels so difficult and in Filipino Martial Arts the learning curve is particularly steep.  Because we learn so much and it feels so diverse, each new movement requires a lot of repetition to absorb and sometimes we feel we are hardly making any progress at all.

It made me think a lot about what I would call "The Shame Factor".  In fact, I am sure I could write a book just about that and its unique place in Japanese society.  However, when it comes to martial arts training this is one of the biggest traps new students fall into.

Especially if they have had a bit of training elsewhere, or think of themselves as reasonably fit/athletic, students imagine their transition into the FMA should be pretty smooth.  Grab the sticks and go, right?  Many of them are shocked when seemingly basic movements are very difficult for them to grasp.  There are so many details in each action, and so much happening at once that it can feel a bit overwhelming.

Then the shame sets in.

We start to tell ourselves that it shouldn't be this hard; that we should be learning FASTER or doing BETTER or not making the same mistakes so often.  This is rooted in ego and the feelings of shame.

The reality is that FMA, like piano or tennis or golf or math or chemistry or contract law or software engineering, has a completely different expression compared to anything else, even other martial arts.  Not only do we have a brand new vocabulary (which may include Tagalog or Bahasa or Hakka words, and I add in Japanese terms as well) but the body has a different language too.  To "move" like an FMA practitioner is not easy at all, despite how easy the KM Guros make it look.  At the beginning it is truly frustrating.

To get good, really good, at something we must set our ego aside, accept that we do not know and allow ourselves to move past any feelings of shame.  Only then can we freely invest the time and energy needed to master something.  Every Guro in KM has gone through this and it was not easy for any of us.  It will not be easy for you, either.  It will, however, be worth it.

Every minute you spend with the sticks makes them more a part of you.  Every step of footwork you do helps you own the movement a little more.  Before long, the muscle memory sets in and you can free your mind to focus on strategy and environment rather than trying to command your arms and legs to do the movements themselves.

O-Sensei (founder of modern Aikido Ueshiba Morihei) is famously quoted as saying "whenever I move, that is aikido".  Of course he was not born like this, and it took decades of practice for his movement to become so instinctive.  If he had given in to shame at the beginning, the story would have ended very differently, and tens of thousands of us would have missed out...

So, when you enter the dojo take your shoes off and leave them outside.
Take your ego off, too, and leave it outside as well, right next to any feelings of shame or self-consciousness.  You can pick them up when you leave after class (well maybe just the shoes).

Trust your training and each other.  You will get there if you stick with it.  I promise.

Thursday, April 12, 2018

Being The King

(thanks for the inspiration BH)

"Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown" - Shakespeare, Henry IV, Part 2

Chess is a fascinating game.  For more than a thousand years, this game has been used to sharpen our analytical and strategic minds.  Chess has also contributed to our understanding of mathematics and psychology, as well as computer science.  Thousands of books and articles have been written about Chess and it continues to be studied intently today.

Despite having only a limited space and scope, 64 space and 16 pieces, the combination of possibles moves and outcomes is practically infinite.  At its most basic premise, this mirrors our lives very well - since we are also finite but with practically unlimited potential.

The King is one of my favorite pieces in Chess.  Many prefer the Queen, since she is often considered the most powerful.  However, even the Queen must be sacrificed if needed in order to protect the King.  This means that the King is truly the most important piece in the game.  This is ironic, since the King himself rarely captures another piece.  It is clever use of the other pieces, and a good understanding of the battlefield (the board) that makes a Chess master.  The game is a subtle blend of patience and aggressiveness that I continue to find fascinating.

There is an important understanding here.  In life, too, we are often focused on our individual contribution - our own KPIs - as a way of justifying/validating ourselves.  In this, we lose sight of the fact that the King's real power is the power of his supporting cast: the bishops, rooks, knights and especially pawns, that determines the outcome.  All of these pieces are aligned to protect the King and to wage war on the opponent.  They each have unique skills and limitations, but if used in combination they can be unbeatable.  Every piece matters, and each lost piece is significant to the overall outcome.  Sacrificing pieces is rarely an effective strategy and is usually not done without very specific gains associated.

Of course it is no accident that the role of the Queen is significant.  A bold partner is indeed a force to be reckoned with, and choosing a strong right hand to act in concert with the king and the rest of the team is key.  Using the Queen in a good balance of offense and defense is vital to victory.  Losing the Queen often results in downfall.

As BH wisely pointed out, the more senior we become, the more we act as an influence to those around us - the other pieces - making sure they are included in the strategy and aware of their unique contribution to it.  We can accomplish so much more as an orchestrator than we could as an individual contributor.  Using the King as a proxy for any other piece usually results in a loss, so it is important to learn how to adapt to a leadership role when the time comes.

In companies, the "King" (CEO), is also reliant on a host of other "pieces" in various departments such as sales, marketing, operations, IT, finance, HR to execute his/her strategy and keep him/her (and the organization) safe.  It is a reminder that selecting and curating talent is the most important factor for success in any organization, and the King's ability to influence others' mindset/culture is a big determiner of success.  Remaining clear about the roles of each group and keeping them aligned is also paramount.  Without clear guidance and direction, the pieces do not operate together as a team, and this usually ends in disaster.

Since IBM's Big Blue beat Chess Grandmaster Gary Kasparov in 1997, we have found that AI can be a big factor in chess.  Programmed well, these learning computers have the ability to perform deep analytics with a lot of computation to validate possible outcomes.  In business, too, strong leaders use data analytics heavily to validate their decisions and empower even their front line staff (pawns) to do so as well.  "Better informed, better performed" or so it would seem.

In martial arts the parallels to Chess are very common and well-discussed.  Even I have had a go at it.  However, as described above, it is interesting to consider that just like in chess, the different pieces yield different combinations of moves.  This is why it is so important to train a wide variety of scenarios and combinations involving different ranges and heights, different environments, different tools/weapons and even different numbers of participants.  Every variable we change offers a new chance to discover and learn.  Patterns and habits in Chess, like in fighting, can be read and used against us by a savvy opponent.

Although not a skillful player, I have always enjoyed Chess and appreciated its significance as more than just a game.  Martial arts, too, is much more than game and similarly can offer deep insights about how to improve our lives.           

Monday, April 02, 2018

Time Zones

(thanks for the inspiration Mike)

Here we are on this little rock, spinning around the sun.  This situation gives us days and nights and seasons as well.  It also gives us time zones, so my morning in Japan is evening in New York City and so on.  The fact that the times are different doesn't make one place faster or slower than another.

I was inspired by this video post.

It is easy to compare ourselves to others and think our lives are better/worse than theirs.  The reality is that we all have a different timeline, a time zone, for our lives and our paths unfold uniquely.  There really is no comparison.

Even in the martial arts, seeing someone effortlessly learn new material or pass rank tests and gain new belts can make us doubt our abilities or wonder of the training is right for us.  We can become discouraged at our apparent lack of progress.

The truth is that none of us were born with martial arts skills.  Even gifted athletes struggle to get their bodies to perform complex martial arts movements and lots of repetition is needed for muscle memory.  In my experience, since FMA is so diverse, no one picks up all the categories (varieties of different weapons, empty hands, boxing/kickboxing) easily or even at the same speed.  In my case, despite more than 25 years of martial arts study before KM, I struggled with many of the movements during the first few years and I am still trying to perfect them.  At times it has been frustrating, but I always knew I would get better at it if I just kept training.

Let go of any time pressure.  Relax and let the classes do their job.  You'll get there in your own time, and the journey will be worth it.

I promise.

Friday, March 30, 2018


Homework...remember that??

I have two boys in international school - one in high school and one about to enter middle school.  Homework means something a bit different to each of them.  For the elementary school boy, homework doesn't really exist.  After school they play basketball or do club activities, but no real study is needed outside the classroom. They are smart enough to let kids be kids - for the moment, anyway.

For the high schooler, in preparation for college, there are concurrent projects going on constantly.  In fact, time management is the real skill they must master since without it they would do little else but go to class, do projects and study for exams  - it's a lot like working.

In our KM school, we have 2 classes (Tuesdays and Thursdays) of 2 hours duration each (1900-2100).  That's four hours total each week.  I'd like it to be more, but I'm grateful for what we have.  Some students, due to work or other commitments, rarely make it to both classes.  That's 2 hours per week for many of them.

In each class we do warm ups and then cover at least 3 different skills (sticks/empty hand or knife/boxing or kickboxing).  In the new model that Guro Fred introduced just after Peaceful Warrior 2018, we will need to do conditioning/Tabata in each class as well.  That means that we have about 30 minutes of training for each technical part, plus 15 minutes each for warm up and conditioning.

Since I only teach adults at the moment, I normally don't give out "homework" as such.  During class time all of us, myself included, can forget the outside world and focus on our training.  We introduce new material, drill and apply in a variety of new ways.  My goal is to build understanding of all the ways we can move and solve situations.  I try to cover as much as I can in each cycle. 

However, martial arts can be understood with the mind but it must be mastered with the body.  The intellect can analyze the movements but only the body can perfect them and make them second nature.

This means that all students are expected to spend time outside of class working on what we do in class.  We provide videos of the material, done with great effort by Kasama Jeremy.  We are all available to meet outside of class for additional sessions as required.

My personal preference would be to spend our class time learning and exploring.  However, as a teacher, I need to spend at least half of it on repetition, since it is so important to develop muscle memory of our techniques.

The rule of 10,000 has proven to be very accurate when it comes to mastery.

Those who do their homework diligently always do better on tests than those who don't.

Anyway, wouldn't you rather do Kali Majapahit homework than trigonometry??